New Beginnings

I have been away for over a month, and before that I was scarce as well. Some changes have been going on in my life that I was not ready to talk about them. But recently I have been feeling the need to get them out. Tell them to the world so I can focus on finding the path that I'm supposed to take.

I have been trying to restructure this Blog, and I think that life has made it so that I don't have a choice in this matter, it has just transformed me completely and with it this Blog.

When I chose the name Cocoons2Butterflies, I chose it because it was what I have been trying to achieve for most of my life. I have been on this constant quest to find myself, and just when I think I have found me, I realize that there's much more of me to find.

I feel that this journey should be shared. Because maybe, there is someone out there who will benefit from my story.

I am still learning, and every day I look forward to knowing a little bit more about myself than the day before.

The event that has triggered this new path is when I made the decision to stay in NYC and not move to Florida as I was expecting to do.  With this choice I have made, I also turned into a single mom, something I didn't want to be. However, I feel that this was the right choice, and when I made it I felt a huge weight come off my shoulders. I no longer feel anxiety every morning, I no longer cry every single day.

This has been one of the hardest decisions I have ever made, but I know that it was the right choice.

With this change in my life I have realized that even though I thought that I had found myself, now, with this new life ahead of me I realized that there is so much I don't know about myself and so many bad habits engrained in me, things I have to get rid of. Fear of rejection, a neediness for affection, low self esteem, feeling that I'm not good enough, not pretty enough...

But there are some things I do know now, like.

I love to sing out loud because it makes me feel like I am releasing into the wind all my feelings, be it of frustration, or love.

I love to dance, the movement of my body also allows me to release those feelings that are trapped inside of me, it makes me feel good.

I like to listen to music in Spanish. This is something I had not done since High School. When I was 13 I had my first boyfriend. I remember he liked Metallica, I had no clue who they where, but I bought their cassette and listened to it until I liked it. This was the beginning of a life of Rock and Heavy Metal music. I grew up as a "Rockera" but now, at age 37 I asked myself. What kind of music do I like? A few years ago I learned to like Hip Hop, and I listen to J-Pop with my daughter Gaby. But all these have been influences from other people in my life. So I again questioned myself and went back to my childhood, what did I listen to, before I was 13? And the answer was Spanish music. So I decided to find a Spanish Music Station who plays a wide variety of songs in Spanish and a few in English and I have been discovering many songs that I enjoy very much, I made a YouTube playlist and I learn the lyrics of the songs and I sing them at the top of my lungs and I feel great!


I love to learn new things. I love to read, especially books that teach me about how to better myself or anything new that interests me.

I love God. I was raised Catholic and went to school, and learned the Bible, and after I graduated high school I never went back to Church, but recently a friend asked me to be her daughter's godmother for her Confirmation and it required me to be a Church goer. I had to get a priest to sign a form saying that I went to Church every Sunday and that I was a member of the Church. So I went to Church every Sunday and registered myself with the Church and got the paper signed. I was also able to participate and be the Godmother of my adorable goddaughter Marylin.  After that passed, my friend April asked me if I wanted to go to Church with her. She is not Catholic, and she goes to a non-denominational Church. One day when I was feeling specially stressed out and in a bad place I decided to call her up and say that I wanted to go to Church with her, and I must say that it changed my life. I really love this Church, it really makes me feel like part of a community, and I feel the presence of God, and I feel that every week the pastor says exactly the words that I need to hear, and I know God is speaking at me through him. I never believed that I would feel this way since I had ignored God for a big chunk of my life. But here I am, and I know that's where I should be.

I love my wavy hair. My hair is normally wavy, and when I was in college I always wore it showing off the curls. But after I moved to NYC I started straightening out my hair and did so, every day. Recently I allowed my mom to convince me to cut my hair and start wearing it curly again. I must say I am very glad, it looks nice, my friends and co-workers keep complimenting me on it and it is so much easier to take care of. People say: I love what you have done with your hair. And I say: Well, I didn't do anything to it. This is my natural hair.

So here it is, a little bit of what I am learning in this New Beginning. I hope you join me on this journey and find yourself once again if you feel that any part of you has already been lost. Just know that the parts of you that are lost, are just merely waiting for you to find them and they will make you shine once more.

Love yourself!

Name 5 things that you love! Share the Love!

You don't know me...

Most people don't know me. But I believe that you guys who read my Blog, know more about me that most people. But still you don't truly know me.

I like to keep to myself a lot. I have gone through periods where I would keep everything inside, then feel so overwhelmed by the amount of stuff I was  keeping quiet about that I would then go the the other extreme and say everything. Either way got me some arguments that could have been avoided. Now, I tend to keep to myself, but talk when I really feel the need to, but before I am about to explode.

I have several close friends who know me a bit more than the average person, and my husband knows me even more than them, but there are still parts of me that I am recently learning they exist.

I used to be very afraid of everything, fear of abandonment has always been a big one. Of not being good enough. Very textbook symptoms of kids that grow up without their fathers. Even though I had wonderful male role models in my life, like my amazing grandfather "Papi" and my step dad "Papa Jaime" who provided the stability and the love I needed from a father figure.


These days I'm not so afraid anymore. I have realized that there's no use for fear, as fear brings about the things you least want in life. Now I concentrate on the things I want as opposed to the ones I don't want. (Law of Attraction)

I have a difficulty cleaning up and keeping the house clean, I try and try and try and there seems to be an endless list of chores, and I want to be able to learn more, because my goal is to have a perfectly clean house like those in the magazines.

I want a house, my own house, just like the one I have been dreaming of since I was a child, one that will have an office, a gym, a recording studio for my husband, Huge kitchen with walk in closets, garage, roof deck, patio, and at least 4 BR.

I like giving to people, I like helping people, I currently make donations to charities on a regular basis. I want to be able to help someone in need whenever I can. I can go out of my way for friends.

I love my family, my husband, my daughters.

I love writing, and editing, and marketing, and being part of creating events.

I like cozying up in bed, and watch TV.

My favorite gifts are always kindle books, and sometimes perfumes.

 I am prone to hibernate in winter, I hate being cold, and when the weather is cold I don't want to do anything. That's why moving to warmer climates actually might help me be a more active person.

It is very hard to explain the depth's of ones soul in just a blog post. I guess if you really want to know me, you should read my Blog all the time.

Do you feel that you present to the world a clear picture of who you are? Or do you keep your true self to yourself?